Alex Salem
Coaching & Consulting - About MeI am a certified professional coach and DEI advocate dedicated to supporting underrepresented professionals in building purpose-driven careers. I also assist organizations in cultivating inclusive...Read more
🦋 You Don’t Chase Butterflies. You Grow a Garden.
Why You Attract Who You Are, Not What You Want
Introduction
We’ve all been told to “go after what you want.”
But what if the real power isn’t in the chase — but in the cultivation?
In my latest video, I shared a truth that’s become a compass in both my life and my coaching practice:
“If you spend your time chasing butterflies, they’ll fly away.
But if you build a beautiful garden, the butterflies will come to you.”
This isn’t just poetic — it’s backed by neuroscience, energy, and lived experience.
🌱 The Garden Metaphor: A New Approach to Manifestation
Chasing desires often creates urgency. Desperation. Attachment.
And ironically, that energy repels the very things we want most.
But when we focus inward—on nurturing growth, clarifying values, developing mastery, and showing up as our best—we create something magnetic. Just like a thriving garden doesn’t beg for butterflies… it attracts them.
🌟 You Don’t Attract What You Want — You Attract What You Are
The version of you who’s grounded, intentional, inspired, and evolving?
That version calls in aligned relationships, career moves, clients, and opportunities—not through force, but through resonance
🔧 How to Apply This in Real Life
- Instead of obsessing over results → Focus on the habits that shape who you’re becoming.
- Instead of asking “Why isn’t it happening yet?” → Ask “What kind of soil am I planting in?”
- Instead of seeking validation → Cultivate self-respect and alignment with your core values.
This is the long game. It’s slower, yes. But it’s real. And lasting. And worth it.
đź’¬ A Final Note (and a Challenge for You)
I want to invite you to stop running and start tending.
Tend to your mindset. Tend to your energy. Tend to the version of yourself that you’d admire even if no one else noticed.
Because when we nurture who we are,
what we want no longer feels so far away — it starts to feel inevitable.
“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant.”
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— Robert Louis Stevenson
Small, intentional efforts compound.
So plant what matters.
And trust that the garden you’re tending will call in exactly what’s meant for you.
Why Coaching?
Electronic Liberation
Efficiency & Productivity
Self-Confidence
Master Your Inner Calm
Find Your Tribe
Improved Communication
I am a certified professional coach and DEI advocate dedicated to supporting underrepresented professionals in building purpose-driven careers. I also assist organizations in cultivating inclusive and equitable workplaces. Focusing on clarity, belonging, and cultural insight, I collaborate with individuals and leaders to foster environments where diverse talent can grow, lead, and thrive.
